Most would see a woman in a long white dress and hat, who is always in church, and believe she is holy. All the truly holy and righteous women I know will cuss your ass out if you try to judge or condemn them, and still feed the whole neighborhood while feeding their own family.
True holiness is integrity to your own soul, forsaking conformity to what pleases someone else, and real righteousness is doing what is right for your own happiness without regard for other people’s perceptions.
There is a god(dess) within you, and that god(dess) is concerned about your eternal happiness above all else. The law for you is written upon your innermost being, not in any book; and to transgress against that law is sin. The only thing that will send you to hell is trespassing on your own liberty, and that he’ll is present and real.
You can escape torment by living in your truth, no matter who doesn’t like it. Let the God within you be true, and every other man a liar. If you are going to repent at all, may it be to the divine presence within you. That creates in you the perfect love that casts out all fear, and the peace that passes understanding.